Meet your future bride
Relationships are a very important (and sometimes even a fairly
complex) matter, and should be treated accordingly.
Everything sounds like fun when it is new. But when the novelty
wears off, many people find themselves feeling trapped emotionally,
financially and socially.
We believe that the best way to find the right person is to get to
know them in their natural environment, in a real-life, equal-basis
setting. This does NOT put you in a position, where you have
'expressed interest' and therefore feel somehow bound by the fact.
This is why we offer you the option to refrain from any
obligations, however subtle, BEFORE you make a decision
who you are interested in, and which relationship (if any) you would
want to pursue.
When it comes to picking a person that is right for you, we want you
to not only have a wide variety of options to choose from but also to
make sure that you get out of this relationship what you expected --
and DON'T get something that you DID NOT EXPECT!
Our program is great for those of you who ARE NOT SURE whether
they are ready to make any commitments to some 'perspective bride'
-- or even be put in a position of being viewed as someone doing so,
for that matter. We just want you to have fun -- and if
something develops in the process, great. After all, the
relationships that develop naturally are the most rewarding and have
the least potential of a sour ending. Just be yourself:
The way traditional programs work is like this:
--You pick out a girl from their database, based on her looks and
what she wants you to know about herself.
--Correspond with her for a while
--Go to Russia to meet her. This is when you finally get to know the
real person. But by this time you are already pretty much committed.
Now, what would happen if you picked a girl you somewhat liked,
corresponded with her (and that seemed to go OK), then came to
meet her in Russia -- and just had that subtle, hard to describe
feeling that you can't quite put a finger on, that there is something
missing here, that there is just no 'chemistry'? Well, you've gone
that far -- and most people just follow through, for the lack of a
'legitimate' reason they could give the girl for breaking up, and (most
importantly) which they could face themselves for starting the big
international search all over.
This happens all the time. The result? 90% (I mean, ninety!) of
Russian-language divorces in the United States are those of
American citizens with the so-called mail-order brides. And you know
what this means, don't you? They rightly say that Love is Grand;
Divorce is a Hundred Grand. Nothing could be more true. And since
American courts cannot -- and take extra care not to -- discriminate,
the fact that the Russian woman did not participate in creating the
American wealth usually is a very weak defence. The women's
attorney's response as a rule is, she left everything she had in
Russia for this man. And whether she did or not is very hard to
prove across the ocean.
Relationships are a very important (and sometimes even a fairly
complex) matter, and should be treated accordingly.
Everything sounds like fun when it is new. But when the novelty
wears off, many people find themselves feeling trapped emotionally,
financially and socially.
We believe that the best way to find the right person is to get to
know them in their natural environment, in a real-life, equal-basis
setting. This does NOT put you in a position, where you have
'expressed interest' and therefore feel somehow bound by the fact.
This is why we offer you the option to refrain from any
obligations, however subtle, BEFORE you make a decision
who you are interested in, and which relationship (if any) you would
want to pursue.
When it comes to picking a person that is right for you, we want you
to not only have a wide variety of options to choose from but also to
make sure that you get out of this relationship what you expected --
and DON'T get something that you DID NOT EXPECT!
Our program is great for those of you who ARE NOT SURE whether
they are ready to make any commitments to some 'perspective bride'
-- or even be put in a position of being viewed as someone doing so,
for that matter. We just want you to have fun -- and if
something develops in the process, great. After all, the
relationships that develop naturally are the most rewarding and have
the least potential of a sour ending. Just be yourself:
- If underneath it all you're inwardly shy, then stay shy -- no
posing as someone who is out to solicit a relationship
- If you love outdoors, cooking, music, art -- get together with
someone who also likes outdoors, cooking, music or art... And
maybe just leave it at that, if you so decide
- If you'd like to find someone who'd care, understand and
stand by you when the going gets tough -- you've come to the
right place. Avoid getting scammed by someone who had paid
big money to a dating company to find a Gringo who is loaded
with cash and American assets.
The way traditional programs work is like this:
--You pick out a girl from their database, based on her looks and
what she wants you to know about herself.
--Correspond with her for a while
--Go to Russia to meet her. This is when you finally get to know the
real person. But by this time you are already pretty much committed.
Now, what would happen if you picked a girl you somewhat liked,
corresponded with her (and that seemed to go OK), then came to
meet her in Russia -- and just had that subtle, hard to describe
feeling that you can't quite put a finger on, that there is something
missing here, that there is just no 'chemistry'? Well, you've gone
that far -- and most people just follow through, for the lack of a
'legitimate' reason they could give the girl for breaking up, and (most
importantly) which they could face themselves for starting the big
international search all over.
This happens all the time. The result? 90% (I mean, ninety!) of
Russian-language divorces in the United States are those of
American citizens with the so-called mail-order brides. And you know
what this means, don't you? They rightly say that Love is Grand;
Divorce is a Hundred Grand. Nothing could be more true. And since
American courts cannot -- and take extra care not to -- discriminate,
the fact that the Russian woman did not participate in creating the
American wealth usually is a very weak defence. The women's
attorney's response as a rule is, she left everything she had in
Russia for this man. And whether she did or not is very hard to
prove across the ocean.
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| Why Russian women? The same is true about the Russian women as what has been said about Russian people in general (See our Meeting People page): Russian culture is a culture of people who for generations have been raised to care for each other, to understand and to be loyal in their commitments. These are their cultural values. Let me explain this a little further. For example, here in America, one of our cultural values is money: it earns us respect and honor just by the virtue of simply belonging to us, although -- once you think of it -- how much a person is worth really has nothing to do with that person's moral qualities. It is simply assumed that the more a person has, the better person he or she is. Now, let's imagine that instead of money a culturally assumed virtue is, say, self-denial for the benefit of a friend. People would practice it regardless of whether or not it actually was in their best interest: just like it is in the case of money, it would be assumed to be in their best interest. And this is exactly how it is in Russia. This is why if you are looking for someone who would stand by you 'in prosperity and adversity alike', a Russian woman is a pretty good bet. Also -- especially in the rural areas of Russia-- women are more domesticated and find pride in keeping house well, serving excellent meals, and taking care of their husbands. And, of course, the Russian culture lacks many quirks that have developed in our society, like for example a 'you-owe-me' attitude or a very common nowadays assumption of that there is a equal sign between marriage and the loss of personal freedom. Now, are ALL Russian women like this? The answer, of course, is NO. And this is why we strongly suggest that you read the side-bar on the right. |
| Don't get yourself into a scam by 'Russin' your choices Type 'Russian bride' in your Google window and the page will immediately fill up with literally hundreds of sites that offer 'a huge database' of 'gorgeous Russian girls' looking forward to meeting you. The best way to navigate though the maze and minimize your chance of getting scammed, always ask yourself the question Why. Why are you looking? In other words, what precisely are you looking for? Is it fun? A more rewarding relationship? A better woman? Why are they looking? What is it that motivates them to list themselves on these websites? Is it loneliness or a prospective return on investment? Often, you can gain this information just by remembering to read between the lines. But hey, if you just want to hook up with a girl, and it doesn't matter to you that she has paid a dating company to be solicited online, feel free. (I still maintain that there are cheaper and a lot less-hassle ways for this kind of fun, but its just me. Heck, if you are willing to fly half-way across the world just to party with a pretty girl, I strongly suggest you check out our Custom Tours and Meeting people offers: this will save you a lot of money, time, trouble, and the risk of losing everything you've got -- and have worked hard for all your life -- in a divorce lawsuit.) The choice, of course, is yours -- I mean, if this is what you are looking for. But if you are looking to find something more like what is described in the article on the very left, don't limit your choices to the natural selection of the species who are looking to break out of this cultural setting. Another pitfall of selecting someone from a database like this is that what you will know about the person is ONLY what they tell you. This approach works fine when we are shopping for a product, because products can be easily selected on the basis of their features: if I am looking for the features A, B, and C, and find something that has them, what the sales people don't tell me about this product is not as relevant, and has minimal impact. (With the exception, probably, of used cars). Human nature, on the other hand, is a lot more complex: a negative trait can bring to naught many good qualities a person would otherwise have -- and probably think they do. The bottom line is: whichever service you use, get to know the person. Not all Russian people are the same, not everybody fits the general description by default. You'll have to meet this person sooner or later. So meet them before start making any commitments. |
The way our Fun and Friends program works is:
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| Read about St. Petersburg and the numerous things to do there while you are having fun and making friends |
